Dear Diary. August '22
We decided to spend the entire month of August in Spain. It was lovely to spend the time with River’s family who live there and for them to spend a month with Mila, such special family time. It made total sense for us too since w had just got married in the country we could take time to relax, unwind and then get back to work whilst mila had some extra hands to help look after her.
She loved it and came on developmentally even more. River speaks to her a lot in Spanish but beng consumed by it would have definitely helped. She also become best friends with their family dog, Kobe or as she calls him - Woo woo.
During our time in Spain, we hadn’t planned a ‘Honeymoon’ as such but we did manage to book a couple nights away just the two of us while Mila stayed with her grandparents.
During our time away Mila was great, her usual self and went to bed as normal each night. However, when we got back we had 2 nights of very distressed sleep. Extremely clingy, screaming, un-settled, only wanting to be held, crying out for Mama constantly. Would eventually settle but scream immediately again if I left the room.
After two nights of the same I was concerned, she was never like this. I started reading into why or what may have caused this sudden outburst.
Separation Anxiety or SA kept coming up. It all sounded familiar and made sense for our situation. Mila is very used to being with us 24/7. She has never really been without us and hasn’t slept a night without at leats one of us since she was born. It was saddening to see that she had become fearful of us suddenly leaving her again so I just naturally reassured her lots, gave lots of hugs and kisses and I’m happy to say that after 2 looooong nights she was back to her usual self with her SA subsided.
Hope this helps if any of you feel your child has suddenly developed it or you have a trio coming up where it could happen after just a few reminders that its totally normal, they are more aware now and just and excuse to give lots more kiss and cuddles and reassurance that mama is here.
